Have you ever wondered whether overcoming an anxious attachment style is possible? Anxious attachment style in relationships can severely strain you and your loved ones, but healing is possible with several simple steps. Fortunately, if this is something you’ve been wondering, I’ve outlined a few simple steps you can use to overcome anxious attachment – and, notably, how you can heal with help from EMDR therapy.
What is an Anxious Attachment Style?
Before we go further, it’s worthwhile to consider an anxious attachment style in relationships.
Attachment style refers to how we connect with important people in our lives. These attachment patterns come from how we were cared for as children as early interactions with parents and caregivers are critical to a child’s development.
A positive, friendly, full of love-connection with parents or caregivers in early childhood helps children develop trust, confidence, and a sense of security. Alternatively, we feel a massive gap in our adult years in case if we haven’t had enough of it in our childhood.
Anxious attachment style is a form of insecure attachment in which relationship was based on abuse and fear. Insecure attachment means that a person grew up with emotionally distant parents who were inconsistent in meeting their needs or wants.
Insecure attachment in early childhood gives the impression to the child that they are not worthy or deserve love.
According to research, people who grew up in families with anxious attachment style struggle to form and sustain stable adult relationships.
So, suppose you grew up in a family with anxious attachment. As a result, you may have difficulty expressing and managing your emotions. You also might be too sensitive to rejection, and cling to others for acceptance and reassurance constantly. You might have a fear of abandonment and rejection to the point that it occupies your thoughts and drive your life.
Generally speaking, an anxious attachment style means that you often feel anxious or worried about the relationships in your life.
It is very common to feel a burning worry of abandonment or being left behind if you are struggling with an anxious attachment style. You may also experience the need to manage every aspect of your relationship personally. Unfortunately, this often results from past traumas in your life, especially during your early childhood years.
Do I Have An Anxious Attachment Style?
Many of us struggle to work out whether we have an anxious attachment style. After all, it’s common to think that “I’ve always felt this way.” However, this could leave you missing the key signs that you have been struggling with anxious attachments.
As such, one of the first steps for anxious attachment style healing is simply to accept whether or not this attachment style is the case for you. Luckily, if you’re not sure, don’t worry. I’ll be here to help you learn more about. And, if you need further support to overcome anxious attachment in your life, I’ll be here to help guide you through this journey.
How You Can Overcome Anxious Attachment Through EMDR
EMDR is rapidly becoming a popular method to overcome an anxious attachment style for numerous reasons. Notably, we tend to use a specific form of EMDR (attachment-focused EMDR) to help with early childhood-related traumas. This allows you to easily and comfortably reprocess painful memories that could impact your current relationships.
How Does EMDR Work?
EMDR therapy is a unique form of treatment that uses rapid eye movements to help reprocess and heal old memories. EMDR is often used for trauma patients, as a result – and this can make EMDR highly valuable for anxious attachment style as well.
If you are experiencing an anxious attachment style, you may have begun to develop this at a young age. Many people who experience anxiety and abandonment fears during their relationships can trace this to an early event in life. Abandonment as a child can leave us finding it hard to form a fully trusting relationship, with many people becoming nervous, fearful, and concerned as a result.
However, living with anxiety about your relationships can often feel exhausting, there’s no doubt about that. Still, since an anxious attachment style is often based on childhood trauma, it can be easily overcome with regular EMDR sessions.
How Will EMDR Help Me With Anxious Attachment Style Healing?
EMDR therapy is a unique process designed to help you recollect and reprocess painful memories or experiences. In turn, EMDR helps you come to terms with these events and associate them with more positive messages, which helps ease the burdens they hold on your life in the present.
During EMDR sessions, rapid bilateral eye movements help engage both parts of your brain simultaneously, allowing memories to be easily recalled and worked on. This can be a slightly nerve-wracking procedure at first, but don’t worry; I’ll be there throughout the process.
Before long, you’ll be able to begin tackling the root causes of your anxious attachment style. In turn, healing becomes easier. You can go forwards without the unwavering burdens of anxiety holding you back from developing a healthier attachment style. In turn, this allows you the chance to start over and begin integrating a gentler attachment style in your life. This should help reduce your feelings of anxiety, worries about abandonment, and fears. In doing so, you may be able to build a much stronger and more stable relationship, resultingly.
Final Thoughts
If you’ve struggled with an anxious attachment style, healing is possible. However, starting out with the right support in place to help you heal is important, and EMDR therapy could be highly valuable in this regard. With this thought in mind, if you would like any further ideas about how EMDR can help with your anxious attachment style healing, please don’t hesitate to contact me today. I’m proud to provide numerous solutions to help you heal.
No matter what you might be struggling with, I’m here to help you ensure that you’re getting the ideal solutions to recovery. You deserve the chance to overcome your own anxious attachment style in relationships; I’ll be here every step of the way to help.